Down and Dirty
October 26, 2006
There is a wave of hatred across the blogosphere and I would be remiss if I didn’t address it, because this is my blog, full of my thoughts and feelings, and by gum, I’m going to say what I want. Plus, I’m not linking to any of this shit because I don’t feel like sending traffic to any of these wacked-out jobbies.
Besides the surge of blatant bullshit being posted by sites like Trainwrecks, there’s a new site in Blogtown that is written horribly, and has defaced pictures of blogger’s children on it. He/she/it has crossed the line. It’s disgusting that anyone would do this, but hey, the argument will always be that as bloggers, we put it out there to be ridiculed, so we deserve it. Much like a scantily-clad woman deserves to be raped, right? Wrong. Whoever the owner is of this new site is a childish piece of shit. As one of my favorite bloggers said recently, something stinks. Damn straight. Something fucking stinks fierce. Someone isn’t who he/she says he/she is, someone is a two-faced liar and sick in the fucking head. If I find out who is behind that site, I’ll be outing them right here. I’m pretty sure it’s someone with no talent, given his/her writing on the site thus far, and someone we know in the blogosphere. Someone who is jealous of certain bloggers, for whatever warped reason.
On top of that site’s psycho-hose-beast owner, there’s also the issue of The Righteous. Someone has a problem with me displaying ads on my blog and in my feeds. She said today in her FOAD post that she would be removing anyone who has ads in their feeds from her Bloglines. Jesus H. Christ on a crutch, are you fucking kidding me? Look, I’m not the most interesting blogger, nor do I warrant a daily visit from you, or anyone. I’m not blogging for you. I blog for me. I blog for people who enjoy coming here. I blog to remember funny things that have happened. Hell, I blog for my dog, but lady, I sure as shit do not blog for you. I don’t need or want your critical ass here if you’re going to throw a temper tantrum or a snide remark every fucking time you see something change on this blog. I pay several bills every month by having ads. Because of this, my family gets to enjoy a couple dinners out every month, a few extra pieces of clothing, Dylan gets to play hockey and Ruffy gets the fancy-shmancy dog bones that clean her teeth better than Milkbones. It makes my family happy to have some cash to play with. It’s sad that you’re so bitter, but you need to get the fuck over it already. This is 2006 and ads are everywhere. Did you think the blogosphere would be ad-free forever?
And it isn’t just about the money. That’s great, but I get more time with my kids by being home, and not working a regular job. This is a decision my husband and I made years ago for all the right reasons. When we made that decision, I did daycare for a year. Don’t even get me started on how that whole mess affected my life or my oldest. It wasn’t for us. So if I can make extra cash every month doing something I enjoy (most of the time while the kids are asleep or at school so don’t EVEN fucking tell me I ignore my children all day), then why the hell not?
Further down the path of The Righteous, is the blogger or commenter who thinks they are the Number One Parent. I got an email yesterday from someone I love and trust, and she was more than upset about the bullshit flying regarding her choices in parenting. I’ve gotten hate-mail regarding Thomas being called Troll Baby, and for not spanking him, for letting him drink milk, for sending him to pre-school, and and and… What you see on people’s blogs is just a snippet of who they are and how they parent. And guess what? They know their kids better than you ever will, so back the fuck up and shut your cakehole. If you were so perfect, you wouldn’t be spewing.
I know that this whole post is somewhat futile, especially since fighting on the internet is absolutely stupid. I also know that ‘feeding the trolls’ is against everything we are ‘supposed‘ to do as bloggers. I’m not really talking about trolls though. I’m talking about people, who, in their ego-centric worlds are being judgmental, hateful, sick-minded people who need to take a look in the mirror before they go off projecting their toxic diatribe and making anonymous websites to poke fun at people’s faults, or kids, or whatever, all the while hiding behind some of kind of cloak. Why don’t you come out and show us who you are? We put it all out there, why don’t you? Right, because you don’t have a spine.
Say what you will, call me what you want, but this is my blog and I will do as I motherfucking please.
October 26th, 2006 at 8:00 pm
heh heh heh… I love it when you get all fired up!
So how can we hate with you if we aren’t allowed to go check this “stinky shit” out? The solid hatred of many is almost always more effective then the lonely hatred of a few, you know…. Following the links didn’t work because I don’t have a Xanga or a Xagina or something, but I wasn’t offended.
(shut your cakehole, hehehehe)
October 26th, 2006 at 8:21 pm
Ok, I will cop to a certain morbid like with trainwrecks. On those days when I just want to bite everyone, it’s kinda fun to go see what’s up. Sometimes I’m appalled and pissed off at what they put up, but then there’s the truly snarkworthy shit that just leaves me giggling (usually message board commentaries, actually. Ironic, given that I’ve been in the middle of a couple of phpBB trainwrecks).
But defacing pictures of other people’s kids? Fuck the hell off. That is just beyond the pale of ok. You bring the stake; I’ll bring the kindling.
And for the people freaking about the ads? Fuck off. Seriously. Other than jealousy because someone else is managing to get paid for blogging and you aren’t, what exactly is your problem? You don’t like ‘em? Don’t look at them. You don’t support it? Don’t click on them.
Fuuuuck…people are stooopid sometimes. Karen, do what you gotta (or hell, want to) for your family, and do it with pride.
October 26th, 2006 at 8:32 pm
right the fuck on, sexy biotch!!!! i know nothing about this site, so tell me what the fuck it is because so help me and the goddess if that fucker has my kid on their site.
October 26th, 2006 at 8:44 pm
Just wanted to let everyone know that I joined the Blogher ad network, so if you’re offended by that, please unsubscribe from my feed. Thank you.
And please Karen, email me the URL of that photo site. I need to make sure my childrens’ photos aren’t on it.
October 26th, 2006 at 8:55 pm
You don’t owe anyone an explanation for having ads on your blog or feeds but since the topic is on the table, here’s my 2?:
With as much advertising as we have to look at every damn day, I see no reason why I shouldn’t, for once in my life, benefit from it just a tiny bit. And that extends to anyone else who wants to do the same. And for those who don’t, that’s fine, too. Live and let live, people!
October 26th, 2006 at 8:59 pm
- couldn’t care less about the ads
- glad you’re making some extra cash
- call your kid whatever you want
- write for whatever reason works
- not sure why i’m writing in point form
October 26th, 2006 at 9:25 pm
I like what s@bd wrote above. basically what I was going to write.
I’m not one of the popular bloggers, but I’m having trouble affording my medications (and can’t work), so I’m adding ads. I can’t understand why people get so worked up about things.
I love your site. I’ve loved everything you wrote. Thank you for writing.
October 26th, 2006 at 10:16 pm
Oooh, I got all tingly when you said motherfucking.
If they’re still twitching after this post, kick ‘em agin!
October 26th, 2006 at 10:30 pm
I had no idea this was going on. Really, I am completely out of it. What kind of meltdown would mess with pictures of kids. Idiot.
October 26th, 2006 at 10:48 pm
I know exactly what you are talking about and I can say without a doubt that I would hunt down the person if they put up a defaced photo of my child. It does cross a line. Say anything you feel like about me I don’t really care, but children… they are another story.
October 26th, 2006 at 11:19 pm
I’m ready to go to war.
Seriously.
Talk as much shit as you want, but go near the kids and I”ll be damned if I don’t get up to beat the crap out of anyone on the other side. I’ve actually met Heather and Tracey and I’ll be damned if I’m not feeling all ya ya right now.
I’m mean when I’m mad. And could totally kick ass.
October 26th, 2006 at 11:42 pm
Honey - I only wish I attracted the kind of ad revenue you have. Blogging is expensive. I’d love to be able to defray more of the costs. As for all the rest it s scary how far some people will go. Make sure you take the time to track the ISP’s of anyone you find objectionable. You have to stay safe.
October 27th, 2006 at 12:10 am
I honestly cannot believe what I just saw.
That is a child! What the fuck?
October 27th, 2006 at 1:16 am
If that site isn’t the definition of someone with WAY too much time on their hands, I don’t know what is. That was a pretty sad example of someone with a bit too much hate in the heart. And maybe no children of their own.
I read Trainwrecks, and I’m one of those silly commenters that actually supports the bloggers they attack. Especially Karen. I mean, just leave people ALONE for a while. Some people do tend to attract loons. I mean, you can’t expect dooce to have a readership as large as she does without a crackpot or two. But this new site… it’s well over the line IMO.
October 27th, 2006 at 1:55 am
“this post might be futile,” as you say, but i bet it was fun to write! go on with your mad, ad-revenue earning, bad self. we’re reading! plus, you get the queen of spain on your side, you can win any war!
October 27th, 2006 at 8:28 am
You go, Karen. I’ve got your back, 10000%.
Can you email me that site, though, with the kids pics? I need to know if my kids are there.
October 27th, 2006 at 9:27 am
Oh this all sounds so sad… why do people have to be so nasty.
You’ve got the right idea and these people ought to just creep back under the stones they came from.
October 27th, 2006 at 10:48 am
i have a girl crush on you.
anyone who says “by gum” AND “psycho hose beast” in the same post. love!
October 27th, 2006 at 11:08 am
Weeeeeeeeeeee!
Karen’s PISSED!
*snort* I love it!
I don’t know what the hell is wrong with people, and you’ve now got me wondering about that site. How sick. People’s kids??? WTF?
People send you hate mail? That just means you’re FAMOUS BABY! *giggle*
Fuck ‘em, I say.
Plus, I’m still all warm and fuzzy from being called one of your fav’s. I shall now go dance around, have a drink and raise my finger in salute to assholes everywhere.
October 27th, 2006 at 11:14 am
Will you marry me? Hahaha! I love how these, ahem, “bloggers”, hide behind Anonymous or “can you guess if I’m a guy or a girl”? Well I don’t care what you are, but why not come out and show us who you are? Oh right, I’s plum forgot you have ZERO talent. ‘Cause it takes someone really schmart to STEAL someone’s child’s picture and put moronic captions above their heads. Fine, if all the talent you have is to shit on other bloggers, well so be it. But honestly, taking pictures of children and making fun of them, low. Oh you must surely be a big strong super hero to do that. Assclowns.
October 27th, 2006 at 11:15 am
I for one, enjoy reading your blog on a daily basis. Not sure what this Trainwrecks crap is but I for one will not be reading it. There is enough BS flying around in this world don’t need to add more to it.
October 27th, 2006 at 11:26 am
Have I told you lately that I love you? Want me to sing it? Want me to sing it in The Whatever? Want me to sing it so off key you wet your pants (AGAIN!)?
Thanks for saying what SO MANY of us are thinking. Power to The Owner of The Whatever!
And WHEN we find out who is behind this garbage, OUT THEM so we can all out them.
October 27th, 2006 at 12:00 pm
Kudos to you girl!
Stealing pics of kids, other peoples children, that is just down right wrong and sick!
Hugs
October 27th, 2006 at 12:11 pm
Amen sister, Amen! I am nowhere in your league but I do enjoy reading your blog and I don’t give a rat’s ass if you have ads or not. I’ve got your back!
Can you send me the site with the kids so I can make sure my kids are not on it (or maybe they are only going after the supper bloggers?).
October 27th, 2006 at 12:53 pm
But wait, I’m the Number One Parent, who is trompin’ on my turf?!
October 27th, 2006 at 1:21 pm
rock on, sister. why folks need to step on others to feel better about themselves has always escaped me. I haven’t seen the stuff you are referring to (how is that possible?) and don’t care to try and find it now, but just know that as with everything, it’s easy to let the bad outweigh the good, when the bad is really so insignificant that I can’t even bear to look at it. xo
October 27th, 2006 at 1:40 pm
Kick ass and take names girl!
October 27th, 2006 at 2:12 pm
Yeah, why do people have to be so judgemental about everything? Sheesh.
And about that blogger who is putting up babies pictures on their blog, I would be interested in getting the link e-mailed to me if you get a chance. I just want to make sure my son’s picture isn’t on it. Assuming not, but you never know. Thanks for bringing it to our attention.
October 27th, 2006 at 2:54 pm
Why can’t they leave people alone and let them blog what they enjoy. I don’t understand most of the hate mail, it just seems so stupid and petty. Every blogger has their own style, if you don’t like what they say, don’t read them it is that simple. Okay, if someone is taking on bloggers children then that is downright sick and not right. Children should not be messed with, all the mom’s will be out to get them.
October 27th, 2006 at 3:07 pm
You all should send this page and info to any Hackers you might know.
I never thought I’d say this but this site deserves to get hacked.
October 27th, 2006 at 3:10 pm
Okay, I didn’t want it before but …
curiousity killed the cat, right?
Can you sent me the link too please? PMS is coming soon. I need an outlet. *wink*
October 27th, 2006 at 3:21 pm
Gawd, I love you. What the F is going on? I have to see this (blog) and see if there is anyway to do magic on the site.
October 27th, 2006 at 3:26 pm
I’ll make fun of adults all day long, but kids?
Even the poor kids that have idiots for parents, it’s not the kids fault.
No, that is not right.
October 27th, 2006 at 3:29 pm
Sometimes you just have to laugh at all the uptight people out there. Well, except for this sorry excuse for an asswipe who is stealing pics of people’s kids.
That site is fucking horrid. And stealing and manipulating pics of other people’s kids has to be one of the lowest acts I’ve seen in the blog world. Not to mention, there has to be something illegal about it.
I’m all worked up now, ready with the pitchfork and brass knuckles. Attack a momblogger all you like - we can take it, and we’ll just laugh at your sorry-ass attempt. But mess with our kids, and there’s hell to pay.
Oh, and to the person who objects to you having ads? Lighten the fuck up. Not all of us have the ability to live without worries of money. Some of us need that little extra just to have a few luxuries like a dinner out. My pennies a month aren’t much, but they’re more than I had.
October 27th, 2006 at 4:41 pm
WOW! You are eloquent when you’re pissed! Swear words have never been used in a such a gorgeous way. I can’t believe that some shit-for-brains is doing this. I’m about to become a mommy, and also considering starting a blog myself in order to pay a few little bills here and there so that I can stay home with my daughter. It sucks that this makes me think twice…
October 27th, 2006 at 7:04 pm
There are so many lonely freaks in the world,who have nothing better to do, but cause trouble,cause thats all they know. Their intelligience or lack of shows in their actions.
I am still laughing at Sassy’s comment, “Assclowns!” totally cool!
October 27th, 2006 at 11:00 pm
Awesome post!
Just wanted to let everyone know to not worry about THEIR kids being on the site. Only two blogger’s children have been targeted.
Hope that helps a bit.
Edited by Karen - no need to name who’s kids are on the site.? I’ve got it covered Bindie…but thank you!
October 28th, 2006 at 1:08 am
Thank you for all the support everyone. If you’re here from one of the sites in question, kindly go fuck your hat. Comments are now closed.