Things I Should Feel More Grateful Than Guilty About
April 12, 2008
- Being able to run, lift weights, walk, bike and play softball;
- Having healthy kids;
- Having a husband who is my teammate, my soulmate, and keeps me wrapped in a loving relationship that I know is forever;
- Having a home - a warm, cozy home (it’s on the market, but it’s still our home);
- Being able to afford healthy food, a gym membership, a trainer, extracurricular activities for our family;
- Working at jobs that I love, jobs that allow me the opportunity to stay home with my kids;
- That my husband goes out to work every day and provides for our family - and that he comes home only to take care of things while I go to the gym most nights;
- That my boys are turning out to be people I am proud of - people of substance - people who go to bat for others and are sweet and kind.
There are a million things I am grateful for. SO. MANY. THINGS. And I’m not bragging here. Sometimes I step back and look at this busy life and revel in the beauty of what fortune we have.
Some of it is so simple. I’m thankful for the colour of my eyes, for the plants poking through the dirt in my gardens, for milk in the fridge and a full jar of peanut butter. I’m thankful my oldest stood up for a kid at school, that my youngest wrote T’s all last week and they actually look like T’s today because he’s learning to write with a marker. That both boys know to say please and thank you, and act like gentlemen and like circus monkeys when the times call for either.
I read your blogs or catch you on Twitter. I want so much for everyone to have less worry. I know there are some who worry about their child’s behaviours, about their own health, about the future and it’s uncertainty. I’ve read as some of you have shared painful things and was ever so grateful when I did the same and you lifted me up when I needed you.
Things are really good now, as you see. The Sugarpants Family is happy, healthy and safe. We have plans in place to build our dream home and we’re living a life that yes, we have worked hard for, but we do appreciate everything going on in our lives.
No, it’s not perfect, but damn near. Yet I have this nagging guilt in telling you all this. I kind of feel like an asshole. Because I know things aren’t perfect (or even close) for some of my blog friends. Oh how I wish that they were though.
Why do I feel so guilty for telling you that things are good? I had no problem dishing when things were bad. Weird how that is, eh?
Well there it all is. What are you grateful for? Do you feel guilty about any of it or am I just a freak of nature?
April 12th, 2008 at 3:49 am
I’m happy that your family life is so good because that is something very important.
I am grateful that I am at peace with myself and that I’m living in this moment.
Lisa’s last blog post..Dear Friends…Here We Go Again
April 12th, 2008 at 3:51 am
Grateful that we just found out our daughter has Celiac Disease (so we can get her on the road to recovery)
Grateful for cool and wonderful friends online and in person
Grateful that I can get Showtime on Demand to watch the The Tudors (sorry it’s shallow but still you did say grateful)
Grateful that I can afford to go to my hair color guru because my hair would suck if I was not blonde.
Grateful for so many things, too many to name. Thanks for causing me to remember these things.
white trash mom’s last blog post..Thursday Tacky Thursday
April 12th, 2008 at 3:54 am
I’m grateful for your twitter avatar. I gotta get a hat like that!
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April 12th, 2008 at 3:59 am
Your happiness gives me happiness. Why do you feel guilty for making me happy? Everybody! Make me happy now! Um, what were we talking about? Oh yes, grateful…I’m grateful that anyone puts up with my nonsense even when I feel guilty for being so silly.
TX Poppet’s last blog post..Mama’s Getting the Cable Yanked Tomorrow
April 12th, 2008 at 4:01 am
I am grateful for so much too and I’m so glad things are great for you! Don’t feel guilty! If you weren’t grateful THEN you should feel guilty.
I am so thankful for all of my kids, even when I complain, even when I want to cry or pull my hair out. They are awesome and really amaze me every day.
There’s so much more! Thanks for this post to help me remember how fortunate I am!
Rebecca’s last blog post..Behavior
April 12th, 2008 at 4:27 am
Tonight I am grateful for you and your sweet comment on my blog.
I will have more tomorrow but it is important tonight that you know how much that actually meant to me!
Hilly’s last blog post..This Is How I Remind Me Of What I Really Am…
April 12th, 2008 at 4:38 am
I’m grateful for many of the same things you are.
I’m also grateful for people that point that out to me. Thank you.
christy’s last blog post..If you ever want to confuse a 2 year old…
April 12th, 2008 at 4:57 am
I am grateful for finally having a job that seems to be stable — and at which I am truly appreciated. It makes getting up in the morning much easier.
Dagny’s last blog post..Thank you, Lisa.
April 12th, 2008 at 11:42 am
I agree that sometimes it seems so much easier to whine and complain rather than being grateful for the good things. I too am grateful for my family, friends, health, house, food, and all that. I’m also grateful for my shows coming back on this week, my smaller size clothes, shoes, purses, books, oh and my computer so I can blog. I think I may have to post about this too.
April 12th, 2008 at 8:44 pm
HI — I clicked over as one of Hilly’s shared reads.
I too look at everything I have and wonder how I lucked into this. Good job where I am appreciated, a great wonderful man who adores me (as much as I adore him), cute kids, loyal friends. It’s just so much.
Truth is though, that like you no doubt, we’ve worked hard to get here. Still you look around and wonder what a few wrong decisions here or there might have gotten us. I just feel bad at those of us who just don’t get the opportunity.
Nat’s last blog post..There is a light and it never goes out
April 12th, 2008 at 9:39 pm
I am grateful for my daughter, husband, family, education, financial stability, home, ability to express myself, and many other things. I always feel guilty about it. Always. I can’t even watch the feed the children type shows, because I feel so damn guilty that I get to eat. Yet, I am grateful. It’s very confusing.
Amanda (Shamelessly Sassy)’s last blog post..Honey…Put Up the Gun..
April 12th, 2008 at 11:49 pm
I am grateful for my medication, my husband, my cats, my job, and music. Also for Excedrin Migraine which has decided to finally start working now that I’m home from leaving work early.
April 13th, 2008 at 1:28 pm
Karen, like me now its the fear of our time in the box and how we’ll handle it. I’ve had a hard yet good life. Now everything is out of my control with the Ovarian Cancer… and I’m sad, discouraged and fearful of the future. So as we experience that great time we wonder what we’ll do for the other time.
One day at a time, and you usually do get through it however, bar none it sucks and I’m so tired..I push myself to write a post. When will this nightmare end…? Who the frick knows….?
I wish you another 75 years of rainbows.
Dorothy from grammology
remember to call gram
Dorothy Stahlnecker’s last blog post..Cancer Update
April 14th, 2008 at 12:54 am
i’m grateful for my ordinary, boring, happy life.
had it the other way. WAAAAY prefer it like this!
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April 14th, 2008 at 3:07 pm
Fuck. I’m a shitty blog friend. I am JUST. NOW. seeing this post.
Sweetheart - we ALLLLL have good times. Even those of us who might currently be bitching - we have good times too. And we want to be able to tell you about them when it happens.
The world needs more gratitude. The world needs more happy.
Miss Britt’s last blog post..In Which I Call Forth A Mountain Of Swag